The Issues of Abandonment and Adoption. Limits of the Life and of the Psychoanalysis?

Abstract: The adoption, alongside with the task of making a family, also has the task to elaborate the traumatism of the abandonment. According to Winnicott, a child needs first of all parents, even more than love, because having parents means for him/her the certitude of the survival when he/she is detested and even detestable. The adoption implies specific psychic realities which request additional skills in elaborating and containing from the side of the involved protagonists. From this perspective, Roussillon speaks about the issue of symbolisation of the double parenthood, Berger - about the phantasm of the family novel situated at the limit of the reality. Invested with positive valences and confirming often its status by the realities it builds, the adoption may still determine, in certain conditions, a limit psychic functioning. By the means of the presented case, we will attempt to analyse the conditions under which an unreported adoption becomes a phenomenon that produces „instability in a stable way” (Schmideberg), particularly in a psychosocial context in which the adoption excites and destabilises both the central stakeholders, the enlarged family, and the community.